Love is such
a beautiful feeling and once you are bitten by the love bug, there is no going
back from it. Falling in love is the best thing that can happen to you and a
memory you can cherish forever!
But, have
you guys always wondered why girls
(except a very few) never take the initiative to propose a guy? This has
been a mind goggling question for so many of you and I thought maybe I can give
some suitable reasons for it.
Hope these
make some sense to you guys and make you understand why girls don't take
the first move..
1. the Ultimate dilemma
Finally
there is that fear of being worthy enough for the man. There is a popular
saying ” A girl think she is never good enough for the guy she loves”. It
is believed to be an untold rule that a woman’s role is to accept the
proposal or reject it but not to make one.
2. The Special Feel
Girls always
want to feel special. If a guy proposes to her , she feels on top of the
world , special and all the more romantic. I mean, who doesn’t like the
extravagant surprise proposal on top of the Eiffel tower.
3. Pointing Fingers At You
Every time
you fight, he has the one thing to say that you hate the most. He blames you
for proposing to him in the first place if you couldn’t handle a petty fight.
This is one of the most annoying reasons.
4. Waiting For The right Guy
We girls take
time to accept that, Prince Charming DOES NOT exist.
Prince Charming isn’t God, and he is bound to have imperfections. We keep
waiting for the right man and soon it is late to understand there is no
such thing as the right guy and the right moment.
5. Unrealistic Expectations
Thanks to
Nicholas Sparks books and countless films, people have unrealistic
romantic expectations of things which can never happen in real life. And we
girls expect this more than ever! Hence, we need the guy to say it!
6. Fear of Rejection
Many girls
do not take an initiative in proposing primarily because of the fear of
rejection. Rejection is part of life. It is quite difficult to overcome the
pain and grief that follows rejection. And so we hesitate, A LOT!
7. Easily Approachable
This
is a patriarchal society, and a girl proposing a guy can portray her being
easily approachable. Despite a girl liking the guy, she has to keep it within
herself to avoid getting tagged as what many of us call, a “loose woman” or one
with no integrity. It is mainly due to the fear of being judged that she stays
within the defined limits of the society.
8. Sounds Desperate
9. Culture Speaks
Right from
the ancient times of courtship, it was a man’s duty to ask a woman for her
acceptance. Being an Indian, a woman is often taught to be docile and sit back.
With changing times, you might just want to let that guy you love know your
feelings.
10.
Women PREFER Men to ask them out
Ask any girl, she probably would like a guy to ask her out first. The
same logic applies for proposing as well. Come on, who does not like to be
swept off their feet with an extravagant proposal by her guy? And then you can
end it with a kiss ;)
So guys, I hope you now know why
girls never(almost) take the step to propose you or ask you for a date! It's
kinda obvious isn't it?! It's all the expectations we have and the norms that
are already made in our head which keeps us away from doing so.
Anyway, what's the big deal, you like
the girl, ask her out dude! Before another guy does :P And at least you don't
have any "expectations" that you want your girl to propose you!!
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